Face it, whatever you do, whenever you do it, you do it one way; you do it “my” way. We all operate from a set of unique and personal influences. Influences that have shaped our beliefs, reactions and ideas. Some originated in our pre-verbal years (things that happened early childhood) other influences may have happened just an hour ago. Who we are is precisely that ~ it’s who we are. It’s life expressed via our unique lens into the world, together with it’s perfect unfoldment according to “ME”. Life would be so much better if everyone would just listen to me. If everyone could just get along and do what I say the way I think it should be done; we would be a lot happier (or at least I would).
Brace yourself, that’s not going to happen. Others will use different approaches to the same situation, that’s life. It’s just different, not necessarily wrong (although it could be). Others may be similar in their approach, but it’s never exactly the same as our process. All approaches should be celebrated and recognized they all bring value. Celebrate and learn from the new and the different. It’s often more important to see the things that don’t work as it is to find the efficient route to the right answer. Allowing the unworkable to unfold may be uncomfortable, may seem like a colossal waste of time. It may also involve expanding our narrow focus or challenging a personal preference. On the other side, it’s always the most experiential way to solidify a new idea or learning curve.
When we have difficulty in accepting any alternative other than our preferential platform we limit opportunities for growth and learning. Why do we do that? Maybe it feels like we are exposing ourselves to too much if we stray from “MY” way. Giving preference to others rather than honoring our well-honed, tried and true beliefs is risky business. After all it’s important to rely on ourselves whenever possible. Our beliefs provide comfortable answers and responses. They also shape the barriers or walls we construct to protect our vulnerable selves. It’s the modus operandi of a middle-class mindset.
The World Class know and celebrate the unique influences that challenge our thinking. If we are willing students, these forces will inevitably support our commitment to growth and life-long learning. At times, when we least expect it, this exact attitude exposes World Class alternatives and opportunity. Wouldn’t happen if we shut the opinions of others down before they got a little traction.
Do it my way, or be willing to get a bit uncomfortable? ~ Think World Class