Life Without Conflict and Doubt

Brent BaldwinLiving life, without conflict or doubt, requires awareness, planning, preparation, and effort. A Huge amount of effort!

Be Forewarned,

Even with all of the awareness, planning, preparation, and effort you can muster, it will never be enough to eliminate conflict and doubt in your life. 

The best we can ever hope for is reducing the risk and maybe skirting SOME of the conflicts and doubt that life dishes out in such great abundance. That’s right, even with all the conspiring in the world, conflict, and doubt is going to show up. It’s an inevitable part of life. When you least expect it ~ there it is.

So why not just wing it, and forget the planning and preparing thing?

Aiming For The Key Hole

Life is like taking a rifle and aiming for a key hole from 1,000 meters away. Even the best marksmen in the world can only hope to get close, and for the rest of us, we would be pleased if our shot landed in the same area code.

Instead of narrowly defining your dreams expand them. Paint life in your minds-eye with a broad brush. Steel yourself against conflict and doubt, be limber and develop resiliency.

World Class performers, prepare for conflict and doubt. 

How can you prepare for conflict and doubt when you’re not sure what it’s going to look like or when it will show up? After all, it usually materializes with less than a moments notice.

Start by incorporating a strategy that is personality driven rather than motivated by a particular event. Develop a response that you can lean on whenever your bellybutton tells you conflict and doubt are in the hood. When you choose to react in a way that is congruent with your belief and personality, you’re way ahead of the game.

Knee jerk reactions can often find us acting out of misguided reasoning, centered around pleasing others.  Or even worse, in pursuit of societies definition of success. Set your rules for the game of life, define your success, pursue your heart’s desire. Your rules are as individual and unique as your fingerprint. 

Developing a personality driven response to conflict and doubt

Here are five common denominators. As in all good things, it goes nowhere without sustained effort and reasoning. Time for you to do the work.

1) Know what you want most, 

What do you believe you are here to accomplish. Remember; it is not crazy if it matters to you.

2) See conflict and doubt as an opportunity, 

Look for the diamond in the moment. It’s always there if you choose to see it. But you are only going to see it if you look critically and not emotionally.

3) Act quickly and congruently, 

Be sincere, trustworthy, dependable and thorough. These traits define us and are the essence of a personality driven response.

4) Do the work, 

Be prepared to understand YOU from the inside out. Take a chance and ask yourself, how do I make a difference? Then lean into it with all your might.

5) Reactions change, 

When you deal with conflict and doubt from a personality driven perspective, change happens. Instead of feelings of anger and attack, things start to feel right. Dividends begin to accrue in all areas of your life, socially, intellectually, spiritually, physically and financially.

It’s time to awaken that sleeping giant within you and be all that you are meant to be. Being prepared is more than half way there.

So, let me ask. Are conflicts and doubts getting in your way? Are you interested in developing a personality driven response to conflict and doubt? If so personal coaching may offer you the help, you need. 

I am offering a limited number of one-hour, introductory-coaching calls for free. If interested e-mail me at brent@ThinkWorldClass.com. 

Have a World Class day my friend.

Get Your Gluteus Maximus in Gear

Brent BaldwinMuscle memory is within all of us. 

Our bodies are amazing, have you ever watched someone who took up a sport like golf or tennis at a very young age. Even after years of not playing they can step up and deliver a swing that makes a casual player, who took up the game later in life, green with envy.

Ask Yourself.

When it comes to the game of life is your muscle memory geared to failure or is it geared to the attainment of your vision.

The reality is, muscle memory can support failure as quickly as it can support success. It’s how we are conditioned, that makes the difference. What are the terms of reference that we lean into when faced with a fork in the road? Do we have a predisposition to failure and walking away; or are we predisposed to finding a solution that dovetails with our vision?

Physically and Intellectually

We tend to think of muscle memory physically. World Class performers know that the most important muscle to work on is that gray matter between our ears. The mind is the greatest muscle we have. 

When you have the body working congruently with a World Class mindset and focus, you become worthy of the attention of others.

World Class performers are like the person who took up their sport as a very young person. They have years of repetition to fall back on.

Four Steps To Get Your Glutes in Gear

1) Clarity, 

Create a repetitive memory in your mind of what you want to accomplish. The one most clear is likely the person to get a buy-in from others and inevitably lead the charge.

2) Feel The Feelings, 

Find and more importantly feel that mental state where you are in the zone and are on top of your game. Make it a sensory experience, incorporate all of your senses into reliving an empowering mental state.

3) Repetition, 

Mentally prepare yourself over and over again. See yourself in full on, fearless pursuit of your destiny. Aim for 10,000 hours of reliving those moments where you were in the flow, achieving your personal best. See it over and over again. Then…… do it one more time for good measure.

4) Insulate yourself, 

With clarity, feeling the feelings and by incorporating repetition, you inevitably protect yourself from the skeptics and those who are standing at the ready to tell you why this won’t work. Too many projects have gone by the wayside because of naysayers and the negative attitudes of others. 

The World Class are unshakable in their pursuit of their visions and goals.

Let me ask you; Are you having trouble getting your gluteus maximus in gear? 

I am offering a free one-hour coaching session to a limited few. Interested? No obligation just e-mail me at brent@ThinkWorldClass.com. 

Have a World Class day my friend.

Unintended Consequences of Your Actions

Brent BaldwinWhen making decisions, we typically start with the presumption that our expectations will manifest with a predictable result. Our intention is clear in our minds, and we expect our decisions to unfold favorably, and life as we know it, will continue to be copacetic.

The Cubs will win the World Series, the sun will rise in the east, and the love of our life is a sure thing.

IF ONLY!

Unfortunately, the decisions we pursue don’t always end up resulting in a meaningful contribution to world peace and universal alignment. Alternative beliefs, influences and interpretations of others often start an avalanche of conflict and unintended consequences.

I thought I was clear

We deal with each other in an imperfect language, a language layered in personal interpretations and individually relevant subtexts. We speak with words, that by their very nature are inadequate in articulating logic and or emotion. Everything we say is subject to the internalization of the listener, and inevitably, the experiences and influences that have brought them to this conversation.

Regardless, we believe we are articulate and clear about what we want, why and how the road before us should unfold. It is our supposition that our actions and the expectations we have of others, should be followed as laid out, it seems obvious. Not buying in could be considered irrational or even treasonous. 

What do you mean by that? 

The words slip out of our mouths, understandings gets muddied and, next thing you know, unintended consequences prevail. Unintentionally we’ve struck a chord, infringed on personal space, and initiated retaliation, attack, or a verbal tirade that appears to come straight out of left field. The misunderstanding is often protecting a thinly veiled self-righteousness ego. It happens, and there is no turning back; unintended consequences start rolling out into the mix.

Four Things To Do When Unintended Consequences Show Up

It’s going to happen. You know it, I know it, and everyone over the age of three years old knows it. So what is the World Class solution to unintended consequences?

1) Listen, 

Because not listening antagonizes and leads to further misunderstanding, before you know it the crap is knee deep. Better to listen and show up as the understanding and truth-seeking hero in this limited engagement story. Listening guarantees you are going to learn something. It could be new information not considered, or it may just be something about the other person’s personality. The World Class know that there are nuggets of knowledge in all this.

2) Be Unattached, 

When others go off, it’s often the result of an emotional trigger. Being unattached to the emotion of others is the absolute best way to hear, assess and arrive at a decision to accept alternatives or stay true to your original premise. When we respond to an emotional attack with an alternative emotion, conflict begins, and we all toddle down an ill-advised path where positions become entrenched, and we all get a little too self-righteous in our justifications. Stalemate!

3) Check Your Logic, 

After all, this is your logic sound; do you still feel secure and committed to your position? If that’s the case, stay true, don’t compromise. We all have a little “people pleasing” in us. A pesky little gene that, if followed, would have us compromising our principals, seeking approval from someone we don’t care about or know. Well thought out and not being swayed from an informed position is a World Class trait.

4) Be Clear, Patient, and World Class, 

Make your point, support your premise with empirical evidence (when possible), and do it all with confidence and decorum. Like my Grandfather used to say “Mud thrown is ground lost.” Choose to walk away when all hope is lost and never compromise your core beliefs.

So, let me ask. Do you have an issue or a problem that’s troubling you? Do you feel like you’re always compromising? If so personal coaching may offer you the help, you need.

I am offering a limited number of one-hour, introductory coaching calls for free. If interested e-mail me at brent@ThinkWorldClass.com.

Have a World Class day my friend.