Here’s a hard reality. If your love life is not fulfilling for you, then it’s likely not doing it for your partner. Why would it? If you’re unhappy dollars to donuts, your partner is just as miserable and unsatisfied. Because no-one’s talking, doesn’t mean there isn’t a problem.
Relationships on the rocks start easing down a slippery slope, before you know it, the momentum increases to something akin to a runaway locomotive. The relationship heads toward the ash heap of dysfunctional family life, separation, divorce, resentment and anger. And lawyers fees, did I mention lawyers fees?
Want it fixed?
Great first question, because sometimes we don’t want to change a thing. In some weird way, we are all capable of existing with things that make us uncomfortable. It seems easier than changing.
Assuming you have no interest in living with pain doubt and frustration. First and foremost resolve to do something about it. Start by dealing with the only thing you can, and that’s YOU.
The problem is always the same; you’re in the way. Your beliefs habits and perceptions have to be shaken up, your perspective reframed and re-evaluated.
Get clear. Do you want a better relationship, more fulfillment, igniting and rekindling the excitement and passion of new love? Or do you want to find and attract the perfect partner?
Then do something about it.
Doing something about it ALWAYS starts with you. The situation is not about someone else’s bad habits, inattention, or lack of commitment. Nor is love a game of quid pro quo, where you show me that you love me and then, I’ll love you back.
When it comes to declining relationships, it’s not that the other person has changed or the relationship has become complicated. It’s that you have not been focusing on keeping your love sharp, you’ve lost sight of what you want what you are capable of giving or maybe more debilitating, your beliefs and self-worth have hit a new low.
Love is simple. It starts with self-love.
That perfect someone is never going to darken your door until you are madly in love with YOU! Just the way you are.
After all, you’re pretty incredible.
Think World Class.