Putting People Together

Brent BaldwinWhatever we do, wherever we go, we are going to be around other people. I know people who, given a choice, would rather not have anything to do with other folks, sad as that may be.

World Class performers are masters of networking. They can make people feel warm and welcome by being in their presence with just a few well-chosen words. Facilitating social intercourse is a learned talent and not one that happens without a lot of commitment and real effort.  Networking builds relationships; relationships build trust and trust builds a life/career.

With Who?

I would recommend you start with everyone you meet. As you get to know people, concentrate on the folks who appear to be naturally confident. The older I get, the less tolerant I am of people with negative attitudes.

Natural Attraction

Through a process that I like to call natural attraction, concentrate on people, you can introduce to each other. What value can someone you know, offer to another acquaintance that you have?

Do these introductions every chance you get. Think about who you know that can help someone that you have just met or maybe someone who has been a longtime friend, ally or associate.

When?

I recommend doing it with reckless abandon, willingly, freely and unconditionally. Be a facilitator. Do it for the love of helping someone create value not for your financial gain but for the sake of building great relationships.

Build more trust, build better relationships ~ Think World Class

Shift Your Process

Brent BaldwinWe all have processes that we use to get things done. Routines that move us forward and in some cases, hold us back. They can be conscious actions or sub-conscious reactions. Regardless, they typically have evolved slowly over many years. Honed and refined to the point that they feel like the are part of our D.N.A. We lean on them day in and day out, never questioning why, or giving them a moment’s recognition.

Ideally, we want all of our processes to be empowering, enabling and supportive.

Sometimes they are, sometimes not so much

So why don’t we just toss out non-supportive routines? Throwing out, eliminating and denying processes and reactions is rarely sustainable when we do it ad-hoc. They run deep, so if we try to turn our backs on ingrained responses, we feel like we are turning our back on markers that have shaped our personalities, molded our character and supported our beliefs. Initially, it feels unnatural to turn your back, walk away and completely let go of the things that helped shape the person that you are today.

The reality is these processes are so much a part of what we do and who we are that we often don’t recognize them or understand if they are assets or liabilities.

How do we change the processes that aren’t in our best interest?

FIRST, Recognition,

See Your Processes, acknowledge that they exist and seek to see and recognize them for what they are. So how do you do this?

Take an activity, something that is part of your daily life. (Choose something that is meaningful). Ideally, choose an event or activity that happens often and is critical to your work life. Put it on a clock, create a timeline, starting with all of the distinct steps you take. Then drill down, moment by moment, add nuance, action, and reaction create a timeline detail by bloody detail. Assume nothing and diarize everything.

SECONDLY, Impact,

Where are the blocks? How did this real-life event get bogged down? Where could it have been more efficient? Where did you stumble or lose momentum? What are your interpretations of the events and the results?

This work isn’t a negative exercise, look for and log all the moments. Those that made you stumble,  and those where your actions facilitated you jumping ahead. We often overlook what went right, what felt good or great and those that made you most proud.

THIRD, No stone unturned,

Ignore nothing. Then take out anything that has a hint of emotion attached to it. Put blame aside and concentrate on just the facts. What happened, don’t over glamourize the wins and play down the skinned knees. Eliminate blame and making others responsible, just the facts, what happened and then take ALL emotion out of the timeline.

FOURTH, Facts and fiction

Now comes the tough question. With what you are left take another look at the events and ask yourself, are they facts or are they opinions? Don’t fool yourself; opinions are often carefully crafted and reused to the point that they feel like facts, but when you blow the wheat from the chaff, they are just opinions. Step back look at the process as an objective observer. Challenge everything and determine its value or see it as a possible hindrance.

FIFTH, Ideal and alternatives

Through the eyes of an uninvested objective observer, brainstorm options that you can plug into anything that hints at being a hindrance. Also look at what went well and determine how to redo these moments better. There is always room for improvement.

Then the million dollar question. 

Now, what are you going to do? Don’t aim for a new attitude with 100% compliance; it took a long time for the old processes to seep into your psyche and you will return to them on occasion. Do not use this as justification to stop trying, it’s a process, and it’s one that takes time and effort. When you slip, recognize it and come back to what would have made this situation better, even if it’s just in your mind’s eye.

So, let me ask. Do you need to redefine processes in your life? If so personal coaching may offer you the help, you need. 

I am offering a limited number of one-hour, introductory-coaching calls for free. If interested e-mail me at brent@ThinkWorldClass.com. 

Have a World Class day my friend.

Is Patience a Virtue?

Brent BaldwinI always thought of patience as a postponement, waiting patiently for an opportunity to knock on my door, or waiting for my turn while others waded into the light first. As a child, patience felt like an odd forum of punishment. An intentional tactic designed by adults to either put off the thing that I wanted or to delay and deflate my enthusiasm.

As I got older patience, became a form of “good manners.” After all, it’s just polite; not being overly aggressive and willing to let others go ahead of me, my wants, and desires. (It could be a Canadian thing) For most of my adult life, I have been overly patient; I have to tell you, it was starting to wear a little thin. It didn’t feel like good manners it felt like I was a doormat.

Patience ~ I don’t think so; sooner is better than later and while we’re at it more is better than less!

“Patience is a virtue” ~ yeah right.

That is how I felt. So I decided that I was going to take my share whenever and wherever. It’s my turn, so step back, get out of my way and let me at it. To say that this attitude burned bridges and alienated me and my goals is an understatement. 

Then I experienced my patience epiphany. I needed to personally redefine patience, understand what it meant and how I was going to incorporate it into my life. Believe me when I say there is a divine order to our lives. I now know that in patience there is peace, a peace that had eluded me in the past and maybe, in that peace is where virtue lies.

Check your patience against these five steps:

1) Define your path, 

Real patience comes when we have an absolute and unshakable knowing that the road we are on is the right one

2) Be intentional, 

Be always working on the next step know where you are going. Understand why and how it all fits into the big picture. Concentrate on the twelve inches of floor space in front of you. When you move ahead one foot at a time, you’re heading in the right direction.

3) Concentrate on the small pieces, 

Steadily building one small step after the next; bite size bits are so much easier to handle. Collectively they will create magic and make dreams come true.

4) Don’t loose sight of where you are going, 

DO NOT get down about not being across the goal line as yet. Patience knows that life will unfold in the right time and the correct order as long as we continue to show up, do the work and don’t loose faith.

5) See, accept, and be open and receptive,

To all opportunities as they present themselves. Be ever vigilant and jump in without reservation when you hear that knocking on your door.

Never stop or lose heart. Always do the work, have faith and embrace patience; I hear it is a virtue.

So, let me ask. Do you need to redefine patience in your life? If so personal coaching may offer you the help, you need. 

I am offering a limited number of one-hour, introductory-coaching calls for free. If interested e-mail me at brent@ThinkWorldClass.com. 

Have a World Class day my friend.

Life Without Conflict and Doubt

Brent BaldwinLiving life, without conflict or doubt, requires awareness, planning, preparation, and effort. A Huge amount of effort!

Be Forewarned,

Even with all of the awareness, planning, preparation, and effort you can muster, it will never be enough to eliminate conflict and doubt in your life. 

The best we can ever hope for is reducing the risk and maybe skirting SOME of the conflicts and doubt that life dishes out in such great abundance. That’s right, even with all the conspiring in the world, conflict, and doubt is going to show up. It’s an inevitable part of life. When you least expect it ~ there it is.

So why not just wing it, and forget the planning and preparing thing?

Aiming For The Key Hole

Life is like taking a rifle and aiming for a key hole from 1,000 meters away. Even the best marksmen in the world can only hope to get close, and for the rest of us, we would be pleased if our shot landed in the same area code.

Instead of narrowly defining your dreams expand them. Paint life in your minds-eye with a broad brush. Steel yourself against conflict and doubt, be limber and develop resiliency.

World Class performers, prepare for conflict and doubt. 

How can you prepare for conflict and doubt when you’re not sure what it’s going to look like or when it will show up? After all, it usually materializes with less than a moments notice.

Start by incorporating a strategy that is personality driven rather than motivated by a particular event. Develop a response that you can lean on whenever your bellybutton tells you conflict and doubt are in the hood. When you choose to react in a way that is congruent with your belief and personality, you’re way ahead of the game.

Knee jerk reactions can often find us acting out of misguided reasoning, centered around pleasing others.  Or even worse, in pursuit of societies definition of success. Set your rules for the game of life, define your success, pursue your heart’s desire. Your rules are as individual and unique as your fingerprint. 

Developing a personality driven response to conflict and doubt

Here are five common denominators. As in all good things, it goes nowhere without sustained effort and reasoning. Time for you to do the work.

1) Know what you want most, 

What do you believe you are here to accomplish. Remember; it is not crazy if it matters to you.

2) See conflict and doubt as an opportunity, 

Look for the diamond in the moment. It’s always there if you choose to see it. But you are only going to see it if you look critically and not emotionally.

3) Act quickly and congruently, 

Be sincere, trustworthy, dependable and thorough. These traits define us and are the essence of a personality driven response.

4) Do the work, 

Be prepared to understand YOU from the inside out. Take a chance and ask yourself, how do I make a difference? Then lean into it with all your might.

5) Reactions change, 

When you deal with conflict and doubt from a personality driven perspective, change happens. Instead of feelings of anger and attack, things start to feel right. Dividends begin to accrue in all areas of your life, socially, intellectually, spiritually, physically and financially.

It’s time to awaken that sleeping giant within you and be all that you are meant to be. Being prepared is more than half way there.

So, let me ask. Are conflicts and doubts getting in your way? Are you interested in developing a personality driven response to conflict and doubt? If so personal coaching may offer you the help, you need. 

I am offering a limited number of one-hour, introductory-coaching calls for free. If interested e-mail me at brent@ThinkWorldClass.com. 

Have a World Class day my friend.