What You Do Isn’t Who You Are

Brent BaldwinAnd conversely who you are, isn’t what you do. 

Who you are and what you do, requires separation. Indeed there are natural cross-over moments and reflective incidences where personality intersects with workplace competence and talent, where career and character are inseparable.

It is when work  defines our personality or our personal life defines our career that problems arise.

There is a problem, when one or the other becomes indelibly defined as the sole source of our personal existence.

Many of us confuse or choose to define who we are with what we do for a living. When we are particularly pleased with work, it can be intoxicating to our ego.

Although our business may be indelibly linked to our persona by others, based on the relationship that we share. It is imperative that we do not internalize and confuse our personal life and our career. 

We have sole custody of our work life as well as our personal life. Granted, each will influence the other, but it’s essential that a line is drawn separating one from the other. Particularly around matters of the heart or self-perception.

Take stock of who you are in both worlds and turn your back on manic pursuits that preclude you from living a balanced and emotionally open life. 

Don’t hide behind your career; be fearless, open and receptive to friends and family. Conversely, don’t let your personal life dominate and unnecessarily disrupt work. Be congruent with who you are in each arena and diligent in your efforts to be appropriately present.

Maintain a sense of separation between these two worlds. Do not waste a life centred disproportionately in one area or the other.

Honour the difference between work and play ~ Think World Class

The Age of Magical Thinking

Brent BaldwinSociety has evolved, or maybe more accurately devolved, to be singularly centered around I, me and myself. Not only have we advanced acute narcism, but we have also developed it with an angry, vindictive edge. Rather than constructive reasoning and debate, it’s much easier to grab the sword and start slicing at anything that resembles vulnerability.

“Those not in agreement deserve the wrath of my unvarnished bile.”

From schoolyard bullies, captains of industry, the nation’s leaders, and at every conceivable level in between, people feel compelled to take a “no holds barred” stand on everything. Taking a staunch position and feeling it is an inherent right to declare to all within earshot that I am the center of the universe. Regardless how well thought out or sound my thesis is, I am divinely right, and your beliefs are not tolerable; that is unless they align with mine.

We are at a crossroad.

A time in history that will be looked back on with either grim horror or accusatory, finger-pointing blame, placed squarely at the door of our dissenters. Hopefully, the current line in the sand will be blown away by the winds of change.

Mitigate divisive grassroots anger through your willingness to show up with mutual respect and constructive dialogue.

It’s not impossible; it’s just at this moment in time the pendulum is swinging to the outer reaches. Hopefully, it will return to a more respectful balance sooner rather than later; because later may be TOO LATE. 

You have a choice.

Declare yourself open to respectful debate and willing to listen to alternatives with an open mind. Share your beliefs with compassion and empathy. Be a force of one, vigilant in your quest and know that you are part of a quite, informed, majority.

I am not suggesting for a minute that we abandon well thought out opinions nor would I ever agree to accept anything contrary to my foundational beliefs. What I am advocating is a return to civilized and constructive conversations. Conversations where alternative points of view are expected and welcomed. 

There will always be those who choose to be vindictive rather than civilized. Your role is to not take their alternative views personally. After all they’re just words.

Listen, debate and Think World Class

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Challenge the Familiar

Brent BaldwinMaybe it only feels right because it’s a habit, a familiar routine, one that offers comfort in its repetition, but the reality is, for some of us the routine, habit or familiar pattern is no longer serving us.

It may be time to look at what we are doing, to explore the why of it, and see if there is a better how in the mix.

Not only does this happen in our personal lives it seems to thrive in corporations, both small and large. Processes and people become so ingrained in daily routines that they fail to realize the effectiveness of what they are doing has long lost its value to the bottom–line or to their quality of life on a personal basis.

Maybe it did add value at one time, but things change, and people are typically resistant to anything that may be the least bit disruptive, we are, for the most part, creatures of habit.

The process of letting go seems harder than hanging on to a routine that is not quite as useful as it once was. After all, change of any kind can be a bit scary at times. The predictability of a pattern, regardless of its effectiveness is, if nothing else predictable, it feels safe.

World Class Thinking, is being comfortable with the uncomfortable; prepared for the risk, stepping into the unknown and the familiar Challenging the status quo is where the possibility of big returns and significant advancements lie.

When life gets interesting ~ Think World Class

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